|The hard truth about writing and
What to Do when Your Lemons Turn Out to Be Grapefruit?
I have always been told if life gives you lemons, then you make lemonade. My lemons turned out to be grapefruits. Now what? Divorce and the humiliation that goes along with it; one party fights so hard to completely destroy the other party. I set out to tell a story. Just an everyday story, nothing special, nothing different from thousands of others on the internet or in bookstores. Wow oh Wow, how can 73 pages of a truth filled account of ones horrible experience bring about such controvesy?
When I started the last nine months of my life, I had no idea what controversy and sometimes anger and evil remarks would be thrown my way.
After all, I was only trying to help someone while helping myself regain some
of my self respect after the terrible relationship nightmare I had experienced.
It was with great motivation I began to tell my story on paper.
Believe me, I never intended this little 73 pages of one single part of my
life to end up all over the world. But as it happened, I embraced the thought
and felt maybe a higher being was leading me to some place he intended me
As we all can attest, just because one can use spell check, or type and
express oneself, does not mean you can write as a professional. Never did I
intend to be viewed or read as such. Having a higher education also does not
mean one can be grammatically correct when writing. I surely can not. I did
like to write in school and made fairly decent grades on papers. This however,
is not the same. As I continued to force myself through the pain and grief
of the past three and one half years of hell, I just thought it might be
beneficial to someone out there who could be in the same place as I.
If your in that place, like me, you would not know the signs and signals to
look for when dealing with a displaced personality.
It was with great "gusto" I embraced the idea of writing a short story
to announce to others in simple everyday tone what indeed events occurred
in my life. The betrayal I as well as others have gone through. Sometimes
we need to express our wrongs to help move forward into right.
Learning how to deal with a liar and a thief is extremely difficult.
You literally do it one day at a time, one hour at a time, one minute at
a time. My story is just that, my story. True as it is, crazy as it sounds,
it is one which resonates all over the world. With 4% of our population
being sociopathic, it would be very hard to find someone who has not
encountered that grandiose personality style.
Not everyone who writes expects to make money or become famous. In fact
the odds are against most everyone who just writes for the fun of it, or
trying to help others by passing on information. Afterall, we live in the
time of the information highway, the internet, so why would we be surprised
the writing of most common man, is highly questionable for its format,
grammar, spelling, and content. Help me Lord, for I commented the sin of
all sins, I expressed myself in everyday terms with everyday language,
for everyday people. I do not expect to win the noble prize or receive
a check in the mail for royalties in the amount of a million dollars.
The fact is, if I make $500 I would be happy. So why do people get so up
in arms about 73 small pages of grammatically incorrect, poor content,
spelling errors, and the main one, questioning the ability of the editor
of the crazy company that published this work.
Well, I fell into the publishers web. Like other non professional hobby
writers (that's what my x husbands attorney called me) I trusted them to
know what editing meant and needed to be done. Pricing also. They did not
ask my opinion about pricing a book 3 times higher than it should be, nor
did they ask my opinion on anything. Clearly, working outside of my
comfort zone, I left matters in the wrong hands. Does that make me a bad
person or a someone ignorant? I think not. Living my life in a very honest
sincere fashion expecting others around me to do the same has only opened
me up for criticism. Can one expect to write for entertainment and not
be judged? I guess not. Entertainment must insinuate professionals. Only
professionals must be allowed to write or express themselves for pleasure
or therapy. Recently, I read an article which states if you keep the mind
active you are less likely to have Alzheimer's in older age. The two things
described in the article that were of the biggest preventive measure for this
horrible disease were; reading and writing.
So where is the grapefruit you ask? Well, the divorce from the predator,
has in itself taken on its own life. Much larger than a lemon so I suggest
it is a grapefruit. Do I now make grapefruit juice? I'm at a loss. His attorney
wants to destroy me as well, and the funny thing, people, I got nothing.
With the economy my career path has dried up. The book path, never took off,
where do we go? Recovery is a journey. But when one tries to recover from
the death of a sibling, divorce, and the slow horrible dying of a loved one
in the final stages of Alzheimer disease, nothing makes any sense.
I say to you, please do not purchase my small 73 page short story, glossed
over by one publishing company known for publishing anything and everything
that is thrown their way. If you expect it to be written by someone like
O'Reilly, Clayton Bye, Nancy Grace,a PHD, or anyone else who not only has
the big publishing company behind them making sure all is perfect but has the
name to go along with it and the advertising dollars to get the word out,
this 73 pages is not that. It was not intended to be that. It is what it is.
The intent to expose someone who may cross your path and you just may want
to be aware of what to look for.
Try as I might to get this predator out of my life and start somewhat
a new, he will not go away. On a recent doctor visit, my physician looked
me in the eye and stated, A sociopath, will not stop until you are completely
destroyed. They stop when you are dead or on the verge of it. Your life
as you once knew it is now gone forever. My advice to you is to get as far
away from him as possible. Yet, try as I might again and again, he will not
go away. It is said in the legal communities that the best defense for
defamatory statements or liable is the truth. Therefore, I state without
reservation, In The Arms Of A Sociopath, is nothing but the truth so
help me God. Read it if you want to know my experience and how I survived
his attempts to turn me into him. But please do not read it, or purchase
it, or waste your time posting how awful it is and written poorly, and
the grammar, etc.; sometimes I think its just him trying to drop the numbers
on the game the online bookstores play. I care not!
I think its very funny to watch how long the attorney and my x visit
and stay on my websites plotting and forging all out war to get me over
73 pages of his actions against me. There will also be two other short
story accounts released soon by the same publishing company and I without
a doubt expect nothing more than what I was given with In The Arms Of A
Sociopath. I recommend highly, you not expect anymore either.
And to anyone who is thinking it just may hurt me if that book were stopped,
please God do me a favor, put it bed and rest for all, take your number,
and get in line as I understand the publisher has his hands full of lawsuits
awaiting. Now, my grapefruit, I decided not to make into juice,
but cut it in half and put sugar on it and enjoy.
To anyone who has purchased my book or will purchase any other books,
I appreciate it and I hope you found it in someway helpful and even
in some areas funny. I have also decided future writings will appear in
mostly this format, blog type writing. Seems the big guys don't expect
so much formality. I will continue to do my best.