| Touch, oh baby! Naughty can be good
Hola, this is Just Jay with the hoe down – lowdown…
Yeah, sexy, everything about you is sexy. You don’t even know what you got and I need to hit your spot. You are innocent, I just want to get with you, you gotta learn to go... work just a little bit, deep in the middle, just a little bit more. Yeah baby!
Ja, hey. It’s tough being in this world, sure thing broé. A lot of girls are really missing out on the bigger part of sex. Caring about their bodies. I read a lot of articles about sex and not one of them has ever focused on female masturbation. But I will be tackling the subject, using some basic common sense...
Note that this piece is not about how females should masturbate nor is it giving any tips on where and how a woman should touch herself. I am not a woman (hell no!), nor have I been one in my past life’s and will not even begin to put myself in my girlfriend’s shoes and try to feel the depth of my vagina – truth is – I don’t have one (s’trues Bob), nor do I have boobs.
I do, however, have male hormones and a male sexual organ (only one I swear), it’s called a penis and know how it feels like to touch it and my body in the way I would love for it to be touched.
There is a lot of taboo and skinder when it comes to female masturbation. Truth is, a lot of guys masturbate from an early age. Even though it is not a topic many guys talk about, a lot of them do it (including me). Don’t form an opinion about me as yet (ya’al don’t know me), but I am a liberal person and believe in voicing my opinions. Guys might say they don’t like their girlfriends masturbating and that it disgusts them, but I promise you now, the same guy masturbates at least twice a day.
So, why is it that girls never talk about masturbating or that there hasn’t been enough talk on female masturbation. Is it because women are raised that way or because they find it totally disgusting? I spoke to a couple of twenty-something women and they confirm that females never talk about masturbation with their girlfriends.
"I was afraid if I told a girl, she’d say, ‘Oh my God! What a slut!," said one of the twentysomethings I chatted to.
Also, the conundrum of all time is that boys are allowed to touch their genitals when they’re urinating. Evidently, it helps us feel more comfortable about touching our bodies, but girls are given the message from a very young age, “Don’t touch down there. It’s dirty.”
I try by all means to satisfy my girlfriend. But, how on earth do I really know what satisfies my woman, my girlie, my stukkie, my Suzie.
The only logical thing to do is the four-letter word for intercourse, T-A-L-K according to Ankur Dalal (from SEX, ETC).
“You have to talk about things like safer sex,” and she continues to say, “You should talk about pleasure”.
How on earth do you think your partner will know what you like if you don’t guide and, uh, escort?
And if you don’t know what pleases you then, girls, get to it. To be sexually open with each other, we need to explore our bodies to find out exactly what makes us tick. There is no shame about it. If you feel too embarrassed to talk about it, then don’t! Do it alone.
Imagine this (taken from Tweet): “Oops, there goes my shirt up over my head, Oh my, Oops, there goes my skirt droppin' to, my feet, Oh my, Ooh, some kinda touch caressing my face, Oh my, Ooh I'm turning red…
I tried and I tried to avoid it but this thing was happening, swallow my pride, let it ride and party. But this body felt just like mine, I got worried, I looked over to the left, a reflection of myself, that's why I couldn't catch my breath…”
Now there’s a sista who isn’t afraid to say what she likes or what she does when coming back in the early hours of Saturday morning after failing to get lucky. Practice; practice till you get it right.
If you’re too uncomfortable to do it alone, then do it with your man. It guarantees some closeness, if not a lot. For us to understand our bodies, we need to explore and investigate them. You will never know where you, I stress the you, might find the most pleasure.
Masturbation isn’t only about touching your breasts or vaginal. It’s when you stimulate or touch any part of your body and you get physically (sexually) excited about it. It could be your ear, your toes, your buttocks, your hair, your fingers…
So, go ahead, play with your hair, your toes, whatever, and taste the, eish eh…eh… eh… ecstasy.
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