while you may not like the process, it is the beast you have to deal with - either that or continue to self-publish.
Regardless of how fair or unfair you may think it to be, it is the writing world and this is a new authors apprenticeship - simple.
Also, given this is a online forum, arguing this strongly against the system may not be the wisest thing in the world as you could come off as someone not willing to accept/make changes. True or not, the impression will likely follow you.
And just replying to your comment on ‘if the wine is sour throw it out’ – as much as I’d love to take credit for coming up with this, I cannot. It is attributed to Mr De Vinci – and not a bad motto for life?